Author: April McDonald Emery
Secrets, Lies,
and
Shame:
A Caregiver's Guide to the Dark Side of Alzheimer's and Dementia
Secrets, Lies, and Shame: A Caregiver’s Guide to the Dark Side of Alzheimer’s and Dementia is a book for the impolite conversations that you need to have but are too embarrassed to bring up. Included in this text are real world problems presented by 125 frustrated caregivers on a variety of sensitive topics. It readily handles the hardest societal problems associated with this disease and gives perspective and advice on difficult situations to include your loved one lying about your care, abuse, pets, pet abuse, sex issues, kinks, fetishes, money squabbles, conflict between family members, conflict between caregiver and the patient’s family and much more.
Our relationships can be messy, as we all carry baggage of previous experiences and traumas. In this book, we look at the many secrets that unfortunately can be exposed by a caretaker and gives compassionate and direct advice on how to handle those bomb shell revelations.
As caregiver to a person with cognitive disease, we can often become an unfortunate target for the lies by our loved ones as they struggle to make sense out of the shattered sense of reality. This book gives step by step advice on how to sidestep the most common issues.
Our loved ones may act inappropriately around family, friends or even caretakers. Learning what drives this behavior and sets them off will help you in addressing it so that their dignity remains intact.
What People Are Saying About
Secrets, Lies, and Shame:
A Caretaker's Guide to the Dark Side of Alzheimer's and Dementia
"Thank you for addressing the sexual side of this disease. It's so hard to talk to anyone about something so private to us."
"I could have written several of the caretaker's stories. I've never felt so relieved to find out that someone else is just as miserable and as clueless as I am! I am definitely going to put some of these tips to work immediately. Thank you!"
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Author: April McDonald Emery
When the Mask Comes Off:
A Caregiver's Guide to the Dark Side of Alzheimer's and Dementia
Available January 27, 2023.
When the Mask Comes Off: A Caregiver’s Guide to the Dark Side of Alzheimer’s and Dementia, is a thoughtful but pointed look at some of the hardest aspects of cognitive disease. 130 caregiver stories are showcased with each situation given guidance on how to resolve the issue or prevent it altogether.
Inappropriate sexual behavior can mean strained relationships. Not understanding how to diffuse the constant and sometimes aggressive behavior can leave many caregivers feeling that placement is their only option.
Cognitive disease strips our loved ones of their inhibitions, creating an environment that can be extremely stressful for caregivers, family, and friends. Personality changes and behavioral outbursts can become common and severe. Caregivers can be faced with increased social isolation with their loved one simply because they aren’t sure that they can manage them in public if they were to have an event. This guide and the caretaker’s stories within give the reader renewed confidence on how to handle those frustrating and sensitive situations so they can rejoin senior groups or family and social functions.
Many people with cognitive decline experience intense bouts of frustration, anger, depression, anxiety and loneliness. As their caretaker, we often reflect those emotions ourselves, as we can be caught up in how our loved ones feel. This guide will help you take control of your own feelings by giving you specific steps to take to minimize your own stress and show you ways that you can redirect even the most dire situations.
What People Are Saying About
When the Mask Comes Off:
A Caregiver's Guide to the Dark Side of Alzheimer's and Dementia
Available January 27, 2023.
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"I found this book to be so helpful. I especially liked the example letters to send to family regarding hard subjects."